Chris Kidd

If you are so passionate about your work that you border on obsessed, you might find it near impossible to turn work off.

This is especially so in the web age, when you can stay connected no matter where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing. What do you do when suggestions like “work only during certain hours” and “don’t check email on evenings and weekends” just don’t seem to be enough?

Here are five more powerful tricks for keeping work in its place…

1. Choose flow-inducing hobbies that really engage you and pull your mind away from work. Flow is a sense of effortless engagement in what you’re doing. You’ll find it in activities that have clear objectives and challenge you just a bit beyond your current level of skill. What kind of hobbies can produce flow? Sports like skiing or martial arts, art like painting or pottery, games like poker or bridge, and puzzles like crosswords or sudoku are a few examples. Such activities will lure you away from work because, unlike passive activities like watching TV, they can provide the same sense of engagement and challenge that your work life offers.

3. Schedule dates with other people for non-work activities. For example, schedule a workout session with a personal trainer, arrange to meet a friend for happy hour after work, or make weekend plans with your friends or family to go hiking. Solo plans are easier to break in favor of work; if you have a commitment to another person you’ll be more likely to shut the laptop and mobile phone off.

2. Never verbalize your frustration with the process in front of other team members. Public loyalty results in private leverage. If you want to have leverage one-on-one with your authorities, then show support for their ideas and strategies in front of the team—even if you think they're absolutely off the wall. Likewise, if you want to lose leverage with your boss, then disrupt and ask challenging questions and foster division among the ranks publicly.

Support publicly; challenge privately. Reverse those two things and you surrender your authority as a leader within your organization. Again, it's OK to think different—to challenge. But the method you use and the place you choose is critical. Everybody who has authority is also under authority.

4. If you don't learn to lead under, you won't have as many opportunities to lead over. Your ability to lead others is directly related to your ability to follow others. Since God is the giver and the head of all authority, all people in an organization's chain of command—leaders and followers—must ultimately answer to God. So when you sign up to participate in authority, you automatically ascribe to the concept of following. As a result, your ability to lead will never far exceed your ability to follow.

First, I crop such images to remove part of the background. That alone makes the background somewhat less intrusive. But often I don't want to eliminate it entirely; I merely want to de-emphasize it. One quick fix is first to blur the background slightly and then to adjust the saturation of both background and subject.

"I’ve had a habit over the years of allowing myself to get so busy that “no” becomes by default answer to practically every question — this has been especially true when it came to helping with friends’ projects or doing non-paying work for worthy causes.

Obviously, in many ways it’s healthy to learn how to say no; you avoid over-committing by ensuring that you’ve thought through all the work on your plate and then never take on new commitments without knowing there’s room to spare.

The good news is that there’s actually an even healthier middle path between “Sure. Anything you say” and “No way. Never.” I call it “the qualified ‘yes.’”

When people ask me to start a new project of any kind — and assuming it is something I’m actually interested in doing — I try to set reasonable boundaries and expectations on how actively I’ll participate as well as how much time and availability I can afford to spend on it. The key for me has been to set fairly hard numerical caps on time, access, and the amount of attention that I want to contribute — and to do so early in the life of the relationship. Here’s the way I put it in that post from December 2004:

So, what used to be “Sure, I’ll do your web site” is now more often “Sure, I’ll give you 10 hours and 3 calls over the next month to use however you want.” If nothing else, it helps everyone understand that time is a precious commodity, but it also gets me out of being the de facto manager for every aspect of a project I touch."

Jonathan Edwards' resolutions are always worth reading this time of year. One of my favourites is:

17. Resolved, that I will live so, as I shall wish I had done when I come to die.

Joe, who I went to uni with, has kept a tally of different things throughout the year:

• Fast Food Meals
• Pints of beer
• Films at the cinema
• Days spent at a monastery
• Books read
• Minutes of football played
• Country walks
• Converts to Christianity
• Days of snow

He wants ideas for what to add, so far he has suggested:

• Plastic Bags Used
• Plastic Bags I've saved by using our sturdy shopping bags
• Money spent on petrol
• Times of contemplative prayer lasting more than 5 minutes
• Saves made / goals conceded
• Frosty mornings
• Nights when I get 8 hours sleep or more

Robert Parmelee, who runs the online site, www.BibleMemory.us, recently added Bethlehem Baptist Church's Fighter Verses (all five sets) to his program.The program is free and its easy to sign up. You can see a quick online demo here.